Well Here’s How To Stop That From Happening
Losing your girlfriend is a devastating blow, no matter how long you’ve been together. It’s a gear shift and a lifestyle change and a confusing time for everyone, but the last thing you want – especially if you want to remain friends, or even want to persuade her back to you – is for her to lose respect for you. Women aren’t friends with men they don’t respect. And they’re definitely not lovers either. Respect is paramount in this world, and if you’ve lost her respect, you’re in trouble.
Losing the respect of a girl who hasn’t even yet become your girlfriend is just as bad, if not worse… There is rarely a second chance to show her why she should respect you.
Respect isn’t just a catchy tune by Aretha Franklin, it’s an important part of adult life. And when a woman who previously loved you, even adored you, has lost her respect for you, it’s pretty much all over. When a woman who hasn’t got to know you yet loses her respect for you, it’s the end. But why does it happen in the first place?
There are loads of different reasons, but the one that stands out above all others is not being yourself. If she has lost her respect for you, you can almost guarantee that it’s got something to do with a missed opportunity you had to take charge, do something you wanted to do, try something new. And that could have been in any aspect of life from the bedroom to the boardroom and anywhere in between.
But I Could Have Got It Wrong!
True. But you could also have got it perfectly right. The point is, if you don’t try you won’t know, and it’s not the outcome that’s important to a women; it’s the attempt. If you don’t even try, she’s immediately lost her respect for you, and that’s the end of that. Trying and failing is better than sitting back and letting an opportunity pass you by.
It’s to do with fear. Let yourself be afraid and you’ll miss out. And amongst the many things you will have lost will be that girl’s respect.
Just Walk Away, Renee
So we might have got a bit caught up on excellent 60’s tunes, and your name probably isn’t Renee, but that’s not the point here. The point is, you’ve got to be independent, not needy. A needy man will have lost her respect as soon as he shows his true self. An independent man will gain it. A man who isn’t afraid to go after what he wants (be that a date, a kiss, a job, an opportunity) even if he might fail, a man who isn’t afraid to do all that, is a man who is respected.
It may feel harsh, but this is what it all boils down to – you need to be willing to walk away from something, no matter what it is, if it’s not right for you. Otherwise you will not only have lost her respect, you’ll have lost yourself in the process.
Think about it.
Go With The Flow
The thing is, a woman knows that a man will want to sleep with her, want to kiss her, want to hold her. If she wants that to, she’ll make sure she sends out the right signals. And when a man doesn’t act on those signals she’s sending out, doesn’t take the chance to kiss her, doesn’t take the opportunity, that’s an automatic pass straight to Lost-Her-Respectville. Not a good place to be. It’s nigh on impossible to get back home from there, and it’s not a good place to live your life.
So when you see those signals, don’t think about it, act on it – go with the flow and do what both of you want to do.
She’ll stop you if you start to go too far (and make sure you pay attention to that signal as well), and she won’t have lost her respect for you. In fact, you’ll be closer than ever.